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A Sign of the Times

With the COVID-19 crisis at hand – frankly I’m sick 😷 of hearing👂🏻 about it!!! As with so many things in my life, I reframe my thoughts 💭… We’re all stuck at home (for the most part.) My hair is greasy and honestly – I’m shocked 😱 that this is a status update shared by so many others – turns out I’m not the only one feeling the stress. This global pandemic is a hardship for us all. In the old days I would say, “I look in the mirror and…” but nowadays I typically see my reflection in my phone 📱 or tablet as I video chat with the rest of the quarantined world 🌎 We have come to rely on technology not just for communication but also as a link to bridge the gap in education, medical and mental health visits, work, and family life.

We joke, but truthfully we can all relate to letting ourselves go because we’re all at least a little depressed… It seems we wash 🧼 for appearances sake much more often than for our health and hygiene.

It’s so much easier to be motivated by the people around us and so much harder to find the internal intrinsic motivation we all WISH we had. I contemplate 🤔 just how this applies to everything I’m trying to accomplish. As a special needs mom, I can’t force motivation on my son anymore successfully than I can push myself to actually do all that I want to achieve.

Stephen look at the lobster! 🦞
He touched the lobster! So glad to get his attention!

So much of what we want to change in life is the very essence of human nature. We need to embrace our humanity and accept that which we can’t change. We will not cure the entire world of disease. Likewise we won’t make an autistic person fit our stereotypical ideals. Instead we need to focus on what we can change. It’s the small steps that we take everyday that will change our eternal destination. Improving upon our habits and reshaping our ideals.

Does he realize that we’re going to eat this?
Curiosity- motivation to enjoy 😊 the world around him!

Let’s not expect our differences to outweigh our similarities. We all want to be motivated by the people, places, and things we love ❤️ most in life. No one wants to be motivated by a pushy boss or a nagging spouse. It’s our enjoyment of the simple things in life that we take for granted – that make the world go ’round. It’s being able to sit outside on a sunny ☀️ day and relax on my porch swing, sipping a cup of coffee ☕️ and enjoying the fresh air. Now that’s motivation enough.

The beautiful colors of spring flowers 🌸

I’ve found the time to enjoy some gardening. As I was surfing the internet and reading articles about gardening, I came across a blog. I was struck by a statement that rung true. While the times are uncertain, the inevitable arrival of spring (in the northern hemisphere) is one thing we can count on. The seasons will change and the sun will continue to rise again…

something I always look forward to…

As a caregiver, special needs and epilepsy make me take a step back and realize that all of these little things can never be taken for granted. The looming fear of illness and setbacks is always on the horizon. We don’t have the luxury of forgetting what COULD HAPPEN. Instead we rely on the FAITH TO FACE OUR FEARS, the undying HOPE that WE WILL get through this, and the love 💗 to make it actually happen. Dinner 🍽 at home with our family isn’t such a bad idea – It’s not a hardship at all!

Maybe we all need to pay more attention to our health and well-being and less attention to the vanity and comfort we have come to take for granted in our modern world…

This is not the end, and this will not be the last global pandemic. In the future perhaps we will be better prepared and have more realistic expectations. Ultimately this will be a lesson in perseverance and it will shape the world as we know it into THE BLESSING THAT LIFE TRULY IS!

beautiful purple spring flower bends gently with the home improvement center parking lot blurred in the background
bring the beauty of imperfection into focus…

A Mother’s Love

What a beautiful story, I just had to share ❤

A Mother’s Love.

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Image: Rose Watercolor – by Liana Seneca
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Parenthood

I’m a huge fan of the show…

It’s been soooo long since I’ve written on this blog that I’m not sure anyone will notice…

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It’s been too long, WAY TOO LONG…

Parenthood is a demanding job, my hubby fell asleep with our 8-year-old in the middle of our queen size bed. He weighs 60 something pounds now, so maneuvering him out of my bed without waking him is something of a feat. I pull him by his feet to the bottom of my bed. Then carefully lift him over both forearms, bending my knees as I lift so not to break my back. (As if I could really carry a 60-something pound boy like a baby, in my arms, from one room to another.) Then I put his feet down on my bed and flop him over my shoulder while he and I both pretended he’s still sleeping. Then I stumble over the beanbag in the middle of the living room floor and barely make it to drop him on his bed with just a little bounce. I tuck him in and give him a kiss on the forehead.

 

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So much has happened since I last wrote that I don’t even know where to begin. So I’ll start with my latest muse.
I was watching the last two episodes of Parenthood on DVR. I know my hubby will be mad that I watched them without him, so I’ll do my best to keep a poker face, and pretend I haven’t already seen them. I really won’t mind watching them again – 2 totally heart-warming, touching episodes. And the spoiler at the end is just breaking my heart. Why do they have to do that with the spoilers. If my hubby was awake he would have insisted that we didn’t watch the “next week on…”

As I watch the show, I’m reminded of just how valuable time is, especially time with those we love. Never take for granted the moments that make up a happy life. Moments of joy and sorrow, fear and hope, love and loss.

The holidays have come and gone with all the typical hustle and bustle of the season. Barely a moment to stop and catch my breath. I sit down to write and I’m pulled away and distracted with daily responsibilities. It’s easy to think of time to relax as a luxury, one I often feel lacking. I sometimes forget, as many busy parents do, that time to unwind is an actual necessity in life.

Always the farmer’s daughter, I find myself ever aware of the cycles of life and constantly in awe of the beauty therein. So I take just a moment to reflect and draw inspiration from the change of seasons. The cold, wet winter days remind me of the challenges that are behind us and of those that lie ahead. Winter is a time of rebirth. A time of quiet, peace, patience, and perseverance – waiting for the spring thaw, for the seed to sprout.

I’ve been so busy since I wrote last. I’ve worked a full-time job special needs parenting, a second full-time job as a volunteer education and legal advocate, and a part-time job self-employed in property management (imagine that a job I might actually get paid for 😉 ) Struggling to make ends meet and to fulfill ALL of my responsibilities to the best of my ability.

I’m happy to report our recent success in educational advocacy. Stephen started at his new school 6 weeks ago. He is now in a “language learning environment” where he will learn to communicate, improve his listening skills, and make the most of his own unique strengths and abilities. He seems happy and appropriately challenged at his new school.

I’m sure other special needs parents out there will want to know the specifics of how we got to this point, but in the typical legal mumbo jumbo fashion there is a non-disclosure agreement with the city. Suffice it to say that knowledge is the key that opens many doors. My best advice to parents is know your rights, know your child’s rights, consider your options, tread carefully, and just put one foot in front of the other and carry on, never give up! A long journey begins with the first step! Take it one day at a time, one step at a time, and persistence pays off.

The first few weeks Stephen was downright giddy with excitement about school. He’s slightly less enthusiastic about returning to school after the holidays, a pleasant indicator that he is aware it’s back to work and back to the grindstone we go. I’m at ease knowing that he is communicating in his unique way that he’s being asked to work hard and learn new things at school.

I’m reminded of seasons past, first with the Birth to Three program – physical therapy, aquatic therapy, feeding therapy, and occupational therapy. Each time he progressed through seasons of dormancy and seasons of growth. The seasons of rest being the times he looked forward to his therapies, and the seasons of growth being the times he would drag his feet just knowing that he’d be asked to do some hard work, and the harvest season – a time of success, accomplishment, and fulfillment. Seasons that inspire and challenge us with anticipation of what lies ahead. regression, disappointment, and frustration mere stumbling blocks turned into stepping-stones.

So it’s off to school he goes, and I’m a little uneasy starting again, anew. I miss the old familiarity of professionals we came to know and love like extended family (aunts and uncles, cousins and family friends.) I’m wondering how they are and what new things this season brings… I’m missing the text messages, and the ease of communication with someone you know and trust, the friendly smiles, and familiar nods. I know one day we’ll be there again – with short sentences, and unspoken words…

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One Word Photo Challenge: White

One Word Photo Challenge White

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Reflections on Life, Laughter, and Love

Live Well,
Laugh Often,
Love Much

The sign hung in the kitchen of my parent’s bright and vibrant home for many months, before being replaced by my chic step-mom with an equally family oriented sentiment.

family is forever

My niece quoted it on a beautiful day at the beach last summer.

live well laugh often love much

I too love the quote and I’m equally inspired by it. Family is the beginning of every story and if we’re among the lucky ones, every story ends with family. When all is said and done, it’s what matters most.

They say, “there is no I in team” but there is both an I and am in FAMILY. Family is the place where we all belong – each of us as unique individuals and collectively all together.

No matter who we are or where we come from, we all draw on our own personal experiences.

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One Word Photo Challenge: Red (Apple Picking with Great-Grandma)

One of our favorite family activities is apple picking at the local orchards. This photo reminds me of a time that was particularly special. It was one of our last family outings with Great-Grandma. She’s no longer with us and we miss her so much – her light-hearted humor, her stories, and her princess personality. She was always the princess – even in old age.

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My grandma had Alzheimer’s. It seemed funny to me that even when she could no longer remember that my father was not my brother and her daughter was not her mother, she still remembered little Stephen had Autism and couldn’t talk. Stephen and Great-Grandma had a special silent connection that was beyond words! We love and miss you Grandma ❤

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Shameless

I’ve been trying desperately to relax and unwind from a very busy holiday season. This is my son’s 3rd day back to school since Christmas, the house is a mess, I’m behind on chores, I don’t have meals made for my son’s gluten free, restricted egg and dairy diet, I have more work to do than energy…

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