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A Sign of the Times

With the COVID-19 crisis at hand – frankly I’m sick 😷 of hearing👂🏻 about it!!! As with so many things in my life, I reframe my thoughts 💭… We’re all stuck at home (for the most part.) My hair is greasy and honestly – I’m shocked 😱 that this is a status update shared by so many others – turns out I’m not the only one feeling the stress. This global pandemic is a hardship for us all. In the old days I would say, “I look in the mirror and…” but nowadays I typically see my reflection in my phone 📱 or tablet as I video chat with the rest of the quarantined world 🌎 We have come to rely on technology not just for communication but also as a link to bridge the gap in education, medical and mental health visits, work, and family life.

We joke, but truthfully we can all relate to letting ourselves go because we’re all at least a little depressed… It seems we wash 🧼 for appearances sake much more often than for our health and hygiene.

It’s so much easier to be motivated by the people around us and so much harder to find the internal intrinsic motivation we all WISH we had. I contemplate 🤔 just how this applies to everything I’m trying to accomplish. As a special needs mom, I can’t force motivation on my son anymore successfully than I can push myself to actually do all that I want to achieve.

Stephen look at the lobster! 🦞
He touched the lobster! So glad to get his attention!

So much of what we want to change in life is the very essence of human nature. We need to embrace our humanity and accept that which we can’t change. We will not cure the entire world of disease. Likewise we won’t make an autistic person fit our stereotypical ideals. Instead we need to focus on what we can change. It’s the small steps that we take everyday that will change our eternal destination. Improving upon our habits and reshaping our ideals.

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Curiosity- motivation to enjoy 😊 the world around him!

Let’s not expect our differences to outweigh our similarities. We all want to be motivated by the people, places, and things we love ❤️ most in life. No one wants to be motivated by a pushy boss or a nagging spouse. It’s our enjoyment of the simple things in life that we take for granted – that make the world go ’round. It’s being able to sit outside on a sunny ☀️ day and relax on my porch swing, sipping a cup of coffee ☕️ and enjoying the fresh air. Now that’s motivation enough.

The beautiful colors of spring flowers 🌸

I’ve found the time to enjoy some gardening. As I was surfing the internet and reading articles about gardening, I came across a blog. I was struck by a statement that rung true. While the times are uncertain, the inevitable arrival of spring (in the northern hemisphere) is one thing we can count on. The seasons will change and the sun will continue to rise again…

something I always look forward to…

As a caregiver, special needs and epilepsy make me take a step back and realize that all of these little things can never be taken for granted. The looming fear of illness and setbacks is always on the horizon. We don’t have the luxury of forgetting what COULD HAPPEN. Instead we rely on the FAITH TO FACE OUR FEARS, the undying HOPE that WE WILL get through this, and the love 💗 to make it actually happen. Dinner 🍽 at home with our family isn’t such a bad idea – It’s not a hardship at all!

Maybe we all need to pay more attention to our health and well-being and less attention to the vanity and comfort we have come to take for granted in our modern world…

This is not the end, and this will not be the last global pandemic. In the future perhaps we will be better prepared and have more realistic expectations. Ultimately this will be a lesson in perseverance and it will shape the world as we know it into THE BLESSING THAT LIFE TRULY IS!

beautiful purple spring flower bends gently with the home improvement center parking lot blurred in the background
bring the beauty of imperfection into focus…

A Mother’s Love

What a beautiful story, I just had to share ❤

A Mother’s Love.

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Image: Rose Watercolor – by Liana Seneca
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One Word Photo Challenge: White

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How To Motivate Me (part 3) It’s Doable

I’ve struggled these last few weeks. In my mind I know that I’ve accomplished so much, yet it feels as though it’s never enough. It’s hard to stay optimistic when it’s sink or swim and you feel as though you’re drowning…

The weight of hopelessness hangs heavy in the city air.  Everywhere I look people have no sense fo pride in their surroundings. No respect for themselves or others. They drown it out with drugs, alcohol and loud music all night long. My son runs around holding his ears and whining. He pulls me toward the door. He just wants to get out, and so do I.

Like prisoners we long for freedom. In our dreams we escape to a better place. A place we can thrive in security, knowing we have a home and a place we belong. We know that everything in this life is temporary and that better things await.

my seedlings (last year's)
my seedlings

Hardship, Perseverance, Character, Hope…

Faith.

Sadly, I feel as though the world has no place for us. Why don’t they understand? They seek a cure, but we don’t need one. They see disability were we see possibility. They think education is expensive, we know ignorance is even more expensive.

Is communication and literacy too much to ask from our community? I know special education costs money. My community pays for a certain quality of education for non-disabled children; but my community struggles with the negative perception that children with severe disabilities are a burden and not worthy of the cost.  Who are we to question who is and isn’t worthy of life?

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I have hopes and dreams like everyone else. Don’t stifle my hope. Believe in me. Know that I can do this. I’ll never give up. I’ll never stop trying. Everyday I amaze you. I accomplish more than you ever thought I could.

We may not all have the same abilities, but we have unique abilities. Everyday we learn and we grow.

I admit I’ve done my share of tilting windmills, struggling against seemingly futile causes. By its very nature, the victory is in the struggle. Who can win a battle, when he retreats in fear of loosing?

Imagine a world without disabilities, a world without special needs children. What kind of world would it be? A world of Stepford children and Stepford wives, with unnatural perfection – zombies, robots, lifeless and unhuman. Brainwashed into submission, they believe in man’s ability to create perfection. They’ve focused their energy on perfecting others, and neglected bettering themselves.

I see a world of possibility. Miracles happen everyday. I have a special child who brings out the best in me. He touches so many lives with his infectious laughter. He communicates joy without speaking a word.

So as parents, we struggle on believing that communication and literacy is possible and that we are capable of teaching him. We must always believe that the task is doable and that we are capable! We must guard our thoughts. The world has successfully educated deaf and blind children for hundreds of years.

For all of history, the worlds greatest thinkers have believed in possibility.

 For more on motivation watch this inspiring video by Dan Ariely : http://on.ted.com/Ariely

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How To Motivate Me (part 2) Progress Not Perfection

It’s always easy to get motivated when I see progress. Cleaning the house while the kids are still growing – is like shoveling the walk while it’s still snowing…

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Blogging for my Sanity

It’s amazing how much things have changed in the few short months since I started blogging.

My 7-year-old, non-verbal son is sitting in a nice warm sunny window watching Alphabet Amusement Park on Netflix. Over the last few months, he’s learned to navigate Netflix on the iPad like a pro. He unlocks the iPad with a pass code and without assistance, get’s on Netflix and chooses the correct user account (so that Netflix will stop prompting me to watch Leap Frog, Signing Time, or another movie/tv show for children that I’m already singing the theme songs to as I drift off to sleep every night…)

My blog has become a journal of personal experiences, a place to be myself, and to renew my strength. At first I wasn’t sure anyone would want to read what I wrote. My adventure in advocating publicly for children with autism and special needs began with a Facebook page. I quickly realized inspirational quotes, funny sayings, photos and bad news were the most popular Facebook posts. I was disappointed. I didn’t reach as many special needs parents as I had hoped. The resources I found over the past 7 years weren’t getting much attention. I had spent hours researching, reading, and learning how best to help my son, and I wanted nothing more than to share what I had learned, hoping the considerable effort I made would save some other exhausted parent time and energy.

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One Word Photo Challenge: Red (Apple Picking with Great-Grandma)

One of our favorite family activities is apple picking at the local orchards. This photo reminds me of a time that was particularly special. It was one of our last family outings with Great-Grandma. She’s no longer with us and we miss her so much – her light-hearted humor, her stories, and her princess personality. She was always the princess – even in old age.

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My grandma had Alzheimer’s. It seemed funny to me that even when she could no longer remember that my father was not my brother and her daughter was not her mother, she still remembered little Stephen had Autism and couldn’t talk. Stephen and Great-Grandma had a special silent connection that was beyond words! We love and miss you Grandma ❤

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This post is in response to: One Word Photo Challenge: Red | Jennifer Nichole Wells.

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Waiting for the Golden Years

This last month has been one of the most hectic times in my life. I keep waiting for things to settle down. I’ve had the stomach bug for 3 days now. I suppose it’s time to see a doctor, but all I really want to do is rest.

When will the golden years come? All my life I’ve heard people say it will get easier when you’re older. I’m not sure that it ever gets easier. I know my perspective has changed so much over the years. Things that were once the end of the world are now just speed bumps.

Wednesday afternoon we drove through a snow storm on our way home from moving our daughter and grandson out-of-state. I was looking forward to getting home and taking a few hours to rest before getting back to work.

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